Infertility comes with its own particular grief.

INFERTILITY COMES WITH ITS OWN PARTICULAR GRIEF

Infertility Fact: Infertility comes with its own particular grief, which is an appropriate emotional response to losses in general (not just death). More specifically, infertility often involves the losses of dreams, plans, goals, life experiences, community, and a sense of belonging. 
 
Infertility Awareness: Couples suffering from infertility are dealing with an often-invisible grief that is largely kept private. The invisibility of this grief, however, doesn’t make it any less painful or significant.
 
Action: Treat couples with the compassion you would extend toward someone who just lost a loved one. Be present, and assure that person of your love, prayers, and willingness to listen. Don’t claim to understand what they are going through, as everyone has unique experiences. Avoid “at least” statements that invalidate the couple’s suffering, such as: “At least you’re married,” “At least you can have a great career,” or “At least you have one child.” Instead, try saying: “I’m so sorry to hear you are going through this struggle. I’m here to listen, and I understand if you don’t want to talk. I don’t claim to understand what you are going through, and I care about you. Would it be alright for me to include you in my daily prayers/check in periodically/drop off a meal?”